Updated: Oct 17, 2019
YOUTH ages 11-14. Male & Female- God Made My Body with a Plan.
*Note- This lesson includes a lot of activities, mini lessons and application. Feel free to spend an evening together on the entire lesson or spread it out into several mini conversations throughout the month.
To learn about the uniqueness of the male and female bodies, particularly the reproductive organs, and to understand that God made them to fulfill a perfect plan.
THINK. FEEL. DO.
My pre-teen will learn the anatomy and function of the male and female reproductive organs, will feel proud of them as God’s perfect and sacred creation, and will continue to protect their bodies.
Paper and Pen
Read the scriptures and share about what it means to you
"The sex that we are given is an absolute and is not a matter of choice. We did not think it nor did we want it, but without knowing the cause, result, or process of our birth, we were born a certain way." - Rev Sun Myung Moon
“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”- Mark 10:6-9
"When we are born as a man or woman, who is the owner of our sexual organ? Actually the owner of a husband's sexual organ is his wife, and the owner of a wife's sexual organ is her husband. We did not know that the sexual organ is owned by the opposite sex. This is a simple truth. We cannot deny this truth." -Rev. Sun Myung Moon
Attention Grabber with a real life object
THINGS WE TREASURE: Let’s think about some objects in our lives that we ‘can’t live without’ as a teen: smartphone? Xbox? Converse shoes? Our laptop? Put your most valuable possessions in front of you.
How do we treat these things? Do you let someone use it whenever they please? Do we leave it around and not worry about what happens to it? No, right? Aren’t you worried someone will mess it up? Don’t you automatically feel the need to protect these objects? What if you found out someone took your smartphone or your computer and trashed it? That would make you very upset, wouldn’t it?
We can agree that when something has a purpose in our life, when something is important, when we value something - we keep it close and we protect it.
Today we will discuss our sexual organs, their value and purpose. “Male and Female- God Made My Body with a Plan ”
BREAK THE ICE:
Leading off with a visual, popular reference
T-CHART: To begin the discussion, take out a piece of paper and create a “T-chart.” One column is how the world views the male and female body/ sexual organs. The other column is how we should view our bodies/ sexual organs. Take some time brainstorming and thinking about what messages are being thrown out there in regards to our bodies. You can look at and talk about social media, music videos, billboards, magazines, tv shows, movies, songs on the radio, books we are reading, etc. (This will be used throughout the lesson today.)
We can see that the world views our bodies as objects to fulfill physical desires. Women are portrayed as sexy and the less clothes- the more enticing. Short shorts, low shirts, more (tan) skin the better. Men are portrayed as buff, rich, ‘chizzled.’ Their sexual organs are tools to make them happy and pleasured. They are often hidden just enough not to see them. There is a lot of shame in exposing their private areas but also a feeling of “who cares!” It is certainly confusing!
There is a message these days to ‘do as you please’ with your body. Use your body in whatever way you want. With whoever you want. Experiment all different types of physical satisfaction without worrying about what your heart or conscience tell you. What is the world telling us to do with our sexual organs? Use them whenever, where ever, with whomever and that their purpose is for physical pleasure alone!
Read the script and watch together
Now, let’s think about why God created our bodies? What are our private parts intended for? Why were they made? What was God’s plan for them?
Before we watch the videos on how our reproductive systems work, what do you already know about them? What have you learned about the male and female sexual organs? What questions do you have about them? What are you wondering?
Now let’s watch these videos together on the intricacies of the reproductive organs! (Together, watch both videos.)
Reproductive System, part 1 - Female Reproductive System by: Crash Course
Reproductive System, part 2 - Male Reproductive System by: Crash Course
Wow! Isn’t it crazy how detailed God created those systems? God had such an incredible plan as He was creating the most precious parts of our bodies. With these systems, we can create life. It blows my mind how intricate these systems are. Did you know your body was that detailed?
What caught your interest in those videos? What new questions do you have?
After looking at the way our reproductive organs work, let’s talk about how we should view our own body. Let’s go back to our T-chart and fill out that portion.
Our sexual organs are sacred, special, and have a very clear purpose: for physical pleasure with our spouse (man and woman), and to create LIFE--another human being! We should be proud of the way our reproductive organs work. When we have something sacred and special we automatically desire to protect it and keep it safe in order for it to fulfill its true potential in the future.
Take a moment to have your teen write down their reaction to the lesson experience so far. Use writing prompts if you like.
Creative Writing Prompts:
Was this a hard topic to discuss for you? Why do you think it was or wasn’t?
In an ideal world, how would people view and think about the male and female sexual organs?
Draw a diagram with labels of a male or female reproductive organ
Discuss your teen’s journal writing they’re open to sharing about or use the following questions as a guide, incorporating your own personal experiences:
What is God’s intention for our sexual organs?
How do your friends talk about this topic? What are they saying in school and on the bus? What is your response to them?
How do you feel about society’s concept of “do as you please, experiment, feel good in the moment” when it comes to love and sex?
How do we protect our bodies?
We know that we live in a culture where people only think about the physical pleasure that can be obtained by using their sexual organ however they please. God has such an amazing plan for these vital organs and it is important to understand the science and intention behind our reproductive systems. As teens growing up in this culture, it is important to remember that our bodies were created in a special way. Male and female each have a unique purpose and build. Our bodies, especially our sexual organs, should not be something to be ashamed of. We should take pride in its unique function and know that when the time is right and we experience the proper use of our reproductive organs, we will feel an amazing sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Until we are are in a safe and committed blessed marriage, we should protect our reproductive organs and know in our hearts that God is looking forward to us using them as He intended!
Pray together. Thank God for the chance to discuss the awesome and amazing science behind His most prized creation. We are incredibly blessed to be co-creators on this Earth and we promise to take care of our reproductive organs and use them as they were intended by our Heavenly Parent. We want to take pride in our body’s power and beauty and we are grateful that there is a unique purpose for us!
Use these activities together with your child over the next month to create ongoing conversations on God's special design for male and female. Click on the blue links!
Made in Pairs by School of Love
SCRABBLE: Reproductive Organ Scrabble- Play scrabble only using words that describe the reproductive systems.
CROSSWORD: Make a Reproductive Organ Crossword Puzzle.
PLAYDOH: Using playdoh, create a visual representation of the female and male reproductive systems based off of a diagram. Discuss the different parts and functions of each together.
VISUALS: Dig deeper with visuals on the reproductive systems. Look and discuss each unique part and the role it plays in the reproductive system.
SONG: Listen to the song “The Wedding Song” by Matthew Mole and have a discussion about what you look forward to when you get married. How do you envision your married life? What do you think is God’s plan for you and your spouse? Draw a picture or create a vision board describing your hopes and dreams for your blessed married life.